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Short on Wisdom

Short on Wisdom | I read this morning a dear sweet message…it felt so true?  It certainly has been true for me in the past and in some area’s still true.  It went something like this…

we are short on wisdom when we cannot put aside an ordinary routine so that we can

♥️ #rest (self-care)

♥️ #evaluate (look at patterns or obsessions of the mind that no longer serve us)

♥️ #change (implement new devotion & new habits)

♥️ #meditate (quiet the busy mind in a very noisy world)

True wisdom can really inspire, move, change & motivate us IF (and only IF); we’re able to take them into our heart & soul & truly implement them (as the life & business enhancing resources they’re designed to be.)

They (rest, evaluation, change & meditation) ONLY help us IF we are able to implement into our daily life & lifestyle.

That’s the tricky part‼️ Implementation‼️ Creating a NEW‼️ way of being & doing.

I don’t have it all figured out YET (I guess that’s the essence life being called a journey.)  I can share that I’ve never been closer to doing & being what FEELS SO GOOD to my heart & Soul.   Which is why – I’m sharing with you!

Please accept my invitation to few resources where you’re able to experience the essence (have a feel good taste test) of what WE are doing that is SO INCREDIBLY “Life & Business” changing.  At first sight you’ll probably think “I’m not doing that.  I’m not bubbly like that.  I’m not into this or that.”  All the things – to be honest – I did – and said. Okay add – I’m too old to do that.  Smile.  Don’t judge.  Don’t dismiss.  Every bit of this information, the teachings, the energy is designed for you to “take in” and process.  Process in a way – that you’re able to make it your own.  Your way.  In your time.  Completely designed with customization on your behalf, on your Souls behalf and on your hearts behalf.

Bring an open mind, evaluate, sit with this information for a month or so and evaluate ALL THE THINGS so you too can co-create, co-design, customize & co-collaborate with some of the best teachers & teachings in all the nation!

3 Resources to Get You Started

2 Completely Complimentary

Soul + Social Tribe (Private FB Group)

Merry Meditation www.MerryMeditation.com (must register – starts Dec 10 & runs until Dec 24 Christmas Eve)

SpeakEasy.live | Private Coaching Community (Click my Speakeasy Partner Link for 5-day Trial +++)

Big LOVE, I hope you’ll expand your beautiful mindset and join us.

It FEELS SO GOOD to implement NEW‼️ ways of seeing & being.

Theresa

Founder | Talk of the Town LOVE

Partner & Guru IT | SpeakEasy.live

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Millennial Gifts 84.6 Strong

Millennial Gifts 84.6 Strong | Have you ever scrolled through your Facebook feed to see a #transformationtuesday? Or a picture of someone’s super food salad? Or even the cliché selfie at the gym? Everyone, right? Millennial’s have a knack for making changes, mostly when it comes to health and wellness. Since we are the largest living generation, at 84.6 million strong, we seem to put a target on our head for businesses focused on a healthy lifestyle. 

I came across a quote the other day a friend posted and it struck a chord with me. “Fitness is 20% workout and 80% nutrition. You can’t outrun your fork!” How clever and unbelievably true is that? If you spend hours a week at the gym but after, swing by your local donut shop, you’re going nowhere. If you Google ways to lose weight or get fit, most articles will talk about your caloric intake. If you put in less than you take out or burn, you should be shedding the pounds, right? Unfortunately, it’s not that easy. If you eat 1,200 worth of carrots and work out to burn 1,500, most would expect to see a lower number on the scale but, that’s not always the case. Where does your body get the protein, iron, and other vitamins it needs to sustain itself? This is where superfood comes into play.

A superfood that seems to be catching much hype is Moringa. Good Morning America even named it the superfood of the year. One cup of the leaves from a Moringa tree gives you 25x more iron than spinach, 12x more vitamin C than oranges, 15x the potassium of bananas, 17x more calcium than milk, 9x more protein than yogurt and 10x more vitamin A than carrots.  It even helps the body rid itself of toxins and free radicals. If that’s not a superfood worth raving about, I don’t know what is! We live in a fast paced society where preparing and cooking meals with real, nutrient dense foods is simply impractical. Thankfully, there are very convenient ways to consume Moringa, and let’s be real, we are all about convenience.

Another way Millennial’s are living a healthy life style is currently sitting in your bathroom. Of all the places in your house, it seems like the most unlikely but you’d be surprised. Have you ever read and googled the ingredients in your deodorant? Your face wash? Shampoo and conditioner? How about your kids’ toothpaste? All of these products touch or are absorbed into the biggest organ on your body, your skin! Even the products you clean your bathroom with that have harsh smells, most of which, recommend wearing gloves when using. Millennial’s have started taking a more natural approach. Essential oils have multiple uses and are replacing everyday household products. From helping with headache relief, weight loss, replacing toxic multipurpose cleaner and boosting immunity, these oils are becoming an essential part of a Millennial’s life.

I am proud to be a Millennial in the business of helping others learn how to create a life unlimited and rid their lives of toxins. We are truly disrupting the status quo with the natural health revolution.   Next article I’ll bring the the mindset magic that makes a difference regarding being a leader, influencing others and accelerating while living a beautifully designed life and business.  Meanwhile don’t forget to follow me on Facebook here.

Our generation believes that profit and purpose can go hand-in-hand. Unlike previous generations, whose pursuits of money and excess are well documented, Millennial’s have far different goals. It is no longer simply about making money, and that is an extraordinary shift in thinking.

I am an entrepreneur and my efforts are driven by making an impact, building dreams, and helping others to reach a beautiful life, too.  Let’s connect.

Lindsey Conti | Entrepreneur | Millennial | Leader

What No One Told Me … Before I Started Managing People

What No One Told Me … Before I Started Managing People

Did you know that over 90% of managers state that they have never been trained how to manage their direct reports?

Managers are expected to ‘know’ intuitively how to lead, inspire, and have direct conversations with their employees. As an Executive Coach, I often hear managers say, “No one ever showed me how to do this!” or “I am just winging this!” This lack of support and truly lack of knowledge often stunts the growth and leadership influence of a manager and can negatively affect the team.

When I became a manager of 17 employees, I made many mistakes at first. After a very candid and tough conversation with an employee I had to terminate, I received feedback from my team and the ex-employee that I had not communicated clearly about performance and expectations. This hit hard because I thought I had, and I assumed that my team knew what was expected of them when it came to performance. After all, I had to figure it out on my own and promoted quickly because of that. Why couldn’t they do that?

Unlike some roles, which can be studied and prepared for in advance, leading a group of people can best be learned on the job; as well as proactively pursuing knowledge. You will make mistakes. Embrace them and learn from them. Here are three key lessons I learned that I wished someone would have told me about being a manager.

1.     There is power in letting your team members do the thinking. In Kevin Crenshaw’s book, “NeverBoss: Great Leadership by Letting Go”, a leader inspires thinking by asking great questions that invite feeling, thinking, and action. “When people feel, think, and act on their own, they start to become leaders.” This is particularly true when you have to address mistakes. Mr. Crenshaw proposes asking these questions to engage conversation and brainstorming:

  • Tell me more about it…
  • What do you see?
  • Would A or B work better?
  • What is the standard or procedure?
  • What do you think?
  • What do you recommend?

When you engage your team to think for themselves and search for their own answers, there is a higher degree of ownership for solutions as well as follow through. As leaders who desire to be the very best, we tend to take on too much. Your role is to let them shine and succeed. In turn, this reflects positively on you as a leader and key contributor to your organization.

2.     Don’t aim to be liked. Aim to be transformational. Being liked is not the same as being respected by your team. Often managers have a tough time with this one. It requires a certain level of courage and self-awareness.

Transformational managers are models of integrity and fairness, set clear goals, stirs the emotions of people, and inspires people to reach for greatness (based on their terms and the company objectives).

Easy, right?

Not really! However, there are literally thousands of books, podcasts, and digital resources available on becoming a transformational leader.

Some of my favorites are:

Radical Candor – Book written by Kim Scott

Coaching for Leaders – Podcast by Dave Stachowiak

TED Talk: Tribal Leadership – Speaker David Logan

3.     Managers coach, not tell. Coaching your people helps build rapport, supports them through business challenges, develops self-awareness, and finds solutions. It also helps you understand how people think about their work, their careers, and their relationships with the organization. Coaching also helps you to improve a person’s performance and deal with issues before these become problems. This skill takes a lot of time and thought.

Daniel Goleman wrote an article for the Harvard Business Review Leadership that Gets Results, in which he characterized the coaching style of leadership as one that

 “…help[s] employees identify their unique strengths and weaknesses and tie them to their personal and career aspirations. They encourage employees to establish long-term development goals and help them conceptualize a plan for attaining them. They make agreements with their employees about their role and responsibilities in enacting development plans, and they give plentiful instruction and feedback…”

Management can be demanding and consume a lot of time. The best managers embrace challenges and build trust with each employee one day at a time. However, being the kind of manager described above also brings unmatchable rewards: positively impacts the lives of people, grows the business through productive teams, and enriches your career journey and purpose.

Alison Nail-Malone is an Executive Coach, speaker, and corporate leadership consultant; and runs Malone Consultants Group. Get her free leadership article by clicking here.

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Five Ways to Cope with Manager Loneliness

Five Ways to Cope with Manager Loneliness | Alison Nail-Malone

Did you notice yourself feeling lonelier once you started managing people or people who were your peers? The price of leadership can feel lonely but is also a universal human response to taking on the responsibility of others and new business objectives.

Think about it. When you first step into a new management role, you’ve drastically multiplied the number of people you need to make happy. The higher you climb up the ladder, the harder you have to focus on proving to your team and clients to be loyal to you and the company. You are judged more severely. Your metrics of success increases. Your words, moods, and actions also have a serious impact on the mental state of your team. And the success of your leadership style typically rests solely influenced by what each team member thinks good management is; and as a leader, you often have fewer work people (or work friends) to “hang” with than you did before.

I bet this may leave you, at times, longing for more simpler times.

Sound familiar?

There is no one right way to avoid these feelings, but throughout my own career and as I coach corporate leaders, I have discovered five effective ways you can dodge the isolation trap.

Accept reality.  Simply acknowledging feelings of loneliness or isolation can be a relief in itself. Constantly denying these emotions in exchange for a false sense of self-assurance is exhausting. Leaders should take a moment each day to process and accept how complex their responsibilities can be. The more accepting a leader is of their reality, the easier it will be to seek and accept support in dealing with it.

Don’t fall into the pitfall of expecting gratitude. This is a common trap for managers who believe they need to go above and beyond in order to help their team through their personal issues. Leaders sometimes get their feelings hurt after overextending themselves for their direct reports, particularly when they receive no gratitude or recognition in return.

Find that one person to offload on. Sounds easy but it is not. Spouses, romantic partners and the like are not exactly whom I am talking about. They have the best intentions; however, they may not always be the most objective. Find a coach, a counselor, a mentor or someone in your trusted network to meet with monthly. They must possess impartiality and practice active listening.

Establish a peer group or a “personal board of advisors”. While this may take some time up front to build, this will make a positive difference. Your personal board of advisors are people who are most likely to understand the pressures that your title (CEO, VP, Director, Sr. Manager, etc.) experiences. They may possess the same titles or titles similar to yours. Spend time with other leaders from different walks of life. Meet with them at least once a quarter if not monthly. Collaboratively discuss the challenges, brainstorm new ideas, and celebrate the wins.

Pick one challenge or low hanging fruit that you can easily accomplish and take action. Being in a leadership role can often be daunting with the day-to-day responsibilities you need to accomplish and supervising a team. Choose one challenge, or a low-hanging opportunity, a month or even quarterly. Managers are tasked with big project and goals. Having a win that can be achieved quickly will help build confidence and strengthen your sense of accomplishment; particularly in those times, you may feel alone as a manager.

Anyone who has stepped into a leadership role knows that the less-than-positive feelings that come with authority are often unexpected. Leaders tend to go to great lengths to maintain a façade of valiant confidence to conceal insecurities. In today’s time of high-stakes business, leaders cannot afford to ignore and not deal with doubts.

Manager loneliness needn’t be a taboo subject. Like related issues of stress and anxiety, being open and proactively dealing with it will lessen the hidden toll it takes. And that will be a good thing for leaders and a good thing for businesses, too.

Author | Consultant | Alison Nail-Malone

Alison Nail-Malone is an Executive Coach, speaker, and corporate leadership consultant; and runs Malone Consultants Group. Get her free leadership article by clicking here.

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~Theresa | Spreading Sweet & Salty Love at | TalkoftheTownNWA.com | 479.633.GROW