Nasty Past. Or Not.
How to tell if you’ve overcome the nasty past. Or not.
When it comes to healing from the past it’s a long road. It doesn’t have to be. Coaching really helps speedy-up the process. It’s tough to do it alone or we would have already done it, right?
So, if these indicators aren’t rock-solidly evident in your life – then keep going! The healing is astounding & once it happens it’s like an awakening to the world around you. Bam, you’re living, breathing, same as before – but it’s a new world you’re looking at! A new Being you’re living in!
Here’s how it goes:
The morning birds outside your window chirp so loud they aggravate you, but not the kind of bother it used to be. You know, the chirps & shrills that come to a point – then what you really want to do is plug your ears & pull the covers back over your head after you slam the window shut for a little more of that ugly silence. No sleep as you had hoped. This precious event is just too much chaos for an already chaotic mind. But when you’ve healed & awakened your Soul the annoying little birdies are just adorable things that tease the heck out of you & bring an oh-so-marvelous smirk to your lips all the same! The beauty of them actually becomes loud too… but it’s okay because there’s no more chaos in the mind hogging up all the room & filling it with the noise of the past.
Past trauma & pain
Past trauma & pain (of any kind, it’s different for everyone) wreaks havoc on the mind, body, & Soul of most every human. It’s really hard to move on from this life free of it. But the healing story is really the heart of this short piece.
What does it look like when you have fully healed? What does it feel like? And how would you truly know the healing took place, deep down at the core, where it’s most needed?
Here’s a couple of ways I’ve learned to recognize healing & how to spot that total freedom to become a new & weightless, soul-led person.
- The affect is gone. Memories, flashbacks, & endless hours of replaying an event at the hopes to change the outcome or hopes to understand it away leave you. They evaporate. You go from basing too many of your decisions in life off of those memories that affected you at a cellular level to no longer giving them much thought. Surprisingly, this feels very natural. And that’s because the events did not break you. Those cells know exactly how to correct their duplication processes. The decisions you make now are driven by your true values, morals, & the appreciations within you.
- When you notice your choices have become in-destructive to your well-being, you are healed. You end up choosing the light path over the dark, a loving partner over a mooch, & time with family & friends over another drink. Whatever it looks like has changed & you make decisions from the heart & soul verses from the mind.
- What happens when a new trauma comes? That’s alright, because a healed person stands on top of any destructive event that washes their way. They’re not IN it, squirming & struggling for the surface, but instead using it as a tool to remind them of what they overcame before. Avoiding & detaching from the event doesn’t happen, but instead a submersion into the feelings & emotions of pain will occur. That doesn’t sound too happy but a healed Soul handles it like royalty! Someone I know & have learned from calls this Sovereignty. Un-fuck-withable-ness. Once submersed you know exactly how to reach the sunlight at the surface & you even get there with a little more breath still in your lungs than ever before.
- You are healed when you experience negativity with a neutral point of view. It no longer activates your past. The emotion processing mechanisms within you are stimulated versus shutting down as a new experience plays out. If the emotion is dealt with nothing can touch you with too much anguish. Healed people can handle the heck out of their trying times & remain neutral at their own & other’s drama/trauma.
These are not sure-fire forms of proof, but they are extremely common in the end-game of becoming healed from past trauma. I learned how to get to here by working with a life coach. Behavioral therapy didn’t work on me.
Medications were a toss-up, but came with side effects of course, some of which topped the actual trauma. With a life coach I was able to try something new, called Soul-Work.
Not all life coaches’ practice this, but mine did, & thank God for that!
My Soul-Work began with a hand-written note, a journal entry, if you will. Delved further into a deep connection with the driving force behind every living creature, & then a little bit of recapping the past. Not too much though, because past is in the past for a reason. And then finally ended with a beautiful & unwavering desire for alignment.
In other words, all my ducks were finally in a row & my soul was finally leading the way. I was healed! We are resilient beings, no different than a little baby.
Babies are so resilient, aren’t they? Kids. They recover quickly.
But each & every one of us still has that kid inside just waiting for healing to begin!
Hire a life coach! It’s cheaper than therapy, drugs, alcohol, or your children’s future – you get my drift. Hire one that brings about your “inner overcomer”.
I see you, feel you, & know your struggle.
And I KNOW you are RESILIENT – so let’s go!! And if this text helped you realize that you are truly healed, then damn! You’re golden!! Just like that. So worth the work, huh?
Until next time – have a good time, ~Melissa
About the Author |
Melissa Nicole was born & raised a Michigander. | Her roots in the Great Lakes State have helped develop her love for nature & Mother Earth. She identifies as a free-spirit & self-care guru, as well as a Life Coach student with the Sovereign Coaching School. Melissa is married with two young girls & a few fur-babies too! Her entrepreneurial spirit & desire to be of service to others has been nurtured by a background in Social Work, a narrative of having triumphed over childhood trauma, & a passion for soul-work/spiritual alignment, with a whole lot of vivacious attitude towards life! Melissa Nicole’s dream of coaching & helping others overcome life’s obstacles appears to be manifesting beautifully as she carves her path in the world of social media!
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