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Nasty Past. Or Not.

Nasty Past. Or Not.

How to tell if you’ve overcome the nasty past. Or not.

When it comes to healing from the past it’s a long road. It doesn’t have to be. Coaching really helps speedy-up the process. It’s tough to do it alone or we would have already done it, right?

So, if these indicators aren’t rock-solidly evident in your life – then keep going! The healing is astounding & once it happens it’s like an awakening to the world around you. Bam, you’re living, breathing, same as before – but it’s a new world you’re looking at! A new Being you’re living in!

Here’s how it goes:

The morning birds outside your window chirp so loud they aggravate you, but not the kind of bother it used to be. You know, the chirps & shrills that come to a point – then what you really want to do is plug your ears & pull the covers back over your head after you slam the window shut for a little more of that ugly silence. No sleep as you had hoped. This precious event is just too much chaos for an already chaotic mind. But when you’ve healed & awakened your Soul the annoying little birdies are just adorable things that tease the heck out of you & bring an oh-so-marvelous smirk to your lips all the same! The beauty of them actually becomes loud too… but it’s okay because there’s no more chaos in the mind hogging up all the room & filling it with the noise of the past.

Past trauma & pain

Past trauma & pain (of any kind, it’s different for everyone) wreaks havoc on the mind, body, & Soul of most every human. It’s really hard to move on from this life free of it. But the healing story is really the heart of this short piece.

What does it look like when you have fully healed? What does it feel like? And how would you truly know the healing took place, deep down at the core, where it’s most needed?

Here’s a couple of ways I’ve learned to recognize healing & how to spot that total freedom to become a new & weightless, soul-led person.

  1. The affect is gone. Memories, flashbacks, & endless hours of replaying an event at the hopes to change the outcome or hopes to understand it away leave you. They evaporate. You go from basing too many of your decisions in life off of those memories that affected you at a cellular level to no longer giving them much thought. Surprisingly, this feels very natural. And that’s because the events did not break you. Those cells know exactly how to correct their duplication processes. The decisions you make now are driven by your true values, morals, & the appreciations within you.
  2.  When you notice your choices have become in-destructive to your well-being, you are healed. You end up choosing the light path over the dark, a loving partner over a mooch, & time with family & friends over another drink. Whatever it looks like has changed & you make decisions from the heart & soul verses from the mind.
  3. What happens when a new trauma comes? That’s alright, because a healed person stands on top of any destructive event that washes their way. They’re not IN it, squirming & struggling for the surface, but instead using it as a tool to remind them of what they overcame before. Avoiding & detaching from the event doesn’t happen, but instead a submersion into the feelings & emotions of pain will occur. That doesn’t sound too happy but a healed Soul handles it like royalty! Someone I know & have learned from calls this Sovereignty. Un-fuck-withable-ness. Once submersed you know exactly how to reach the sunlight at the surface & you even get there with a little more breath still in your lungs than ever before.
  4. You are healed when you experience negativity with a neutral point of view. It no longer activates your past. The emotion processing mechanisms within you are stimulated versus shutting down as a new experience plays out. If the emotion is dealt with nothing can touch you with too much anguish. Healed people can handle the heck out of their trying times & remain neutral at their own & other’s drama/trauma.

These are not sure-fire forms of proof, but they are extremely common in the end-game of becoming healed from past trauma. I learned how to get to here by working with a life coach. Behavioral therapy didn’t work on me.

Medications were a toss-up, but came with side effects of course, some of which topped the actual trauma. With a life coach I was able to try something new, called Soul-Work.

Not all life coaches’ practice this, but mine did, & thank God for that!

My Soul-Work began with a hand-written note, a journal entry, if you will. Delved further into a deep connection with the driving force behind every living creature, & then a little bit of recapping the past. Not too much though, because past is in the past for a reason. And then finally ended with a beautiful & unwavering desire for alignment.

In other words, all my ducks were finally in a row & my soul was finally leading the way. I was healed! We are resilient beings, no different than a little baby.

Babies are so resilient, aren’t they? Kids. They recover quickly.

But each & every one of us still has that kid inside just waiting for healing to begin!

Hire a life coach! It’s cheaper than therapy, drugs, alcohol, or your children’s future – you get my drift. Hire one that brings about your “inner overcomer”.

I see you, feel you, & know your struggle.

And I KNOW you are RESILIENT – so let’s go!! And if this text helped you realize that you are truly healed, then damn! You’re golden!! Just like that. So worth the work, huh?

Until next time – have a good time,  ~Melissa

About the Author

Melissa Nicole

About the Author |

Melissa Nicole was born & raised a Michigander. | Her roots in the Great Lakes State have helped develop her love for nature & Mother Earth. She identifies as a free-spirit & self-care guru, as well as a Life Coach student with the Sovereign Coaching School. Melissa is married with two young girls & a few fur-babies too! Her entrepreneurial spirit & desire to be of service to others has been nurtured by a background in Social Work, a narrative of having triumphed over childhood trauma, & a passion for soul-work/spiritual alignment, with a whole lot of vivacious attitude towards life! Melissa Nicole’s dream of coaching & helping others overcome life’s obstacles appears to be manifesting beautifully as she carves her path in the world of social media!

You can connect with Melissa Nicole via Facebook and/ or Melissa Nicole via Instagram

 

Rise and Raise Your Hand

Rise and raise your hand to no more getting hurt, allowing what other people think to get in the way of all you dream of, your life’s purpose, no more allowing the trauma and drama in life to interrupt your frick’n flow!  Yes – become unfuckablewith!  You know I love this!  And it is time!!!

Come with us to a place where stuck, over-stressed, overwhelmed and burn out dissipate!  It’s Co-Ed, too, on purpose – with purpose!  A one stop shop for building business with ease, flow and clarity online and face to face.  An authentic place to support each other – link arms and co-create real change in our home, our communities, our nation – our world.  We create our true destiny.

Become a master of your flow, a master of your emotions, a master of your energy and master your life.

We learn on the daily and we are inviting you right NOW…

1)      Free | Social Soul Tribe | Referral “Theresa” (there are a lot of groups out there but NONE like this); LIVE learning on the daily from Guides & Guru’s around the world.  Learn from them – Become on of them.  That’s right – we are always looking for leaders, influencers and lovers of “doing good in the world & making a difference in the world!”  Come link arms with us – we’re doing EPIC shit – on the daily!

2)      Next Level | the SpeakEasy | Referral “Theresa” – Paid Community ($37 basic and includes Speaksie App, next level is $67 and includes training and choice from 10 Coaches Monthly.)  Super Affordable.  All of us are moving to the NEW Speaksie APP – a private and beautiful place to be, do and have all you want.  Again, leadership & influence opportunities all the time.  Guess what else?  This resource also has a SpeakEasy Playground with 100’s of 1000’s of dollars’ worth of training waiting on you!  I love that Virginia doesn’t nickel and dime for everything she teaches – love love love that!  Again, it’s waiting for you – probably in the Speaksie App by NOW.

3)      NEW Speaksie App | Launched June 1, 2019 | I’m not sure this is still available (it is a limited time offer); if so, please take advantage – Life-Time Membership Gift ( click here to see if still available ) to the Speaksie App from “Theresa” (yes, you have to use my name as you enter.)  Email is necessary but no CC info.  Enjoy and enjoy expanding your beautiful circle with like-minded beautiful people.  Here’s the Link for the Special Gift

4)      NEW School!  Virginia is launching her Dual Sovereign Coaching Certification School June 10 – if you’re too – late send a message for the list regarding next time.  Here’s all the scoop!

5)      Sovereign Alignment Course Retreat | I’ve had a little start regarding this program and it’s OFF the Charts so good.  We are headed to Mexico in November for the completion in person (yay! Face2FaceLove)…  Become a master of your flow, a master of your emotions, a master of your energy in order to master your life.  I want to get you through your 2019 with blissipline and EASE and I want us to be supporting each other as a tribe, cheerleading and masterminding through it all together!  You’ll hear more about it I’m sure until then – check it out a bit – here!

There’s more but you’re perfectly capable of looking around and plugging in where your heart feels called.  I’m always available for a clarity call or I can connect you with other leaders as well…

Closing

As my coach says it’s time to master ease in your life, master the art of allowing good things to flow to you, learn now to master what’s going on inside so to manifest what you want in and around you – at all times.

Your Soul is always correct, she says, let’s stop looking everywhere else or getting caught up in the next feel good bright shinny object out there.  Let’s learn how to hone in our skillset and differentiate between people pleasing and Soul please and how to always feel full of grace and sovereign as we choose Soul alignment.  Let us learn how to use our empathic nature as our Super Power tool instead of a kryptonite soul drainer that keeps us from everything we want in life.  Let’s lay down the old “shrink” factor and step into our unique personality and our “Biz Brilliance.”

I’ll see you at all of the above & and the beyond…

Big Love,

Theresa (Ever want a private phone chat, here’s my calendar link to book it)

Founding Partner | Speaksie.com “making it easy to speak and thrive when you tap into your truth”

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Music is the Global Handshake | Welcome

Talk of the Town NWA takes great pride in welcoming newcomers to Northwest Arkansas. It is a delight and honor to welcome The House of Songs Ozarks to our community. The House of Songs or THOS opened its Austin house in 2009 coupling local and international songwriters in a 12 day immersion of collaboration and friendship. Believing that “Music is the global handshake,”  THOS participants blend their unique cultural and musical experiences to co-create new original songs. These songwriters are showcased for local residents free of charge at various venues. The Walton Family Foundation has helped to facilitate the opening of this second house in our area.

Welcome! The House of Songs Ozarks, Bentonville, AR

Troy Campbell, founder and president, says that the inspiration for THOS has been an expanding vision born after meeting Danish star singer-songwriter, Poul Krebs back stage at a New Orleans songwriters convention in 1999. After accepting an invitation from Krebs to join him at a songwriting retreat in Denmark, the expansion of this international connection continued.  In addition to the original Austin THOS, other THOS sponsored songwriting collaborations have been hosted in 13 other countries. Campbell  said that the name, The House of Songs, came to him in an instant when asked what he would call his organization.  He later found that the ancient Persian religion of Zoroastrian referenced “garo demana” or House of Song as the place where righteous souls would go. Of note, this writer in reading about Zoroastrian found that ancient high priests or Magi (possibly the wise men from the East) had associations with the Zoroastrian Religion.

Saturday, August 26 was the Open House for THOS Ozarks.  Guests were able to tour the house located on Southeast C Street in Bentonville.   The rooms in the house are each named for famous songwriters including Arkansas’s own Sister Rosetta Tharpe.

The event was hosted by Campbell and his wife along with Clayton Lillard who is the House Manager for the Austin House. Bernice and Bryan Hembree, organizers of the Fayetteville Roots Festival, will be helping to welcome the international guests as well as introducing them to local songwriters.

The first guests to the Ozark house are set to arrive September 7.  There will be a free concert at the The Preacher’s Son, 201 NW A Street in Bentonville on September 10 from 3:00 to 6:00 p.m as well as a screening of the documentary co-directed by Campbell along with Austin Tolin, Albert E. Brumley: Songwriter of the Ozarks. Campbell summed up his impression of Northwest Arkansas with a simple, “I had no idea.”

Click to learn more details about…The House of Songs

Talk of the Town TEAMMATE  | Bex Tracy, Rogers, AR | “Together we can and will do more; serve more!”  Theresa

Talk of the Town NWA  our mission is to report on people, places and things that matter in Northwest Arkansas; applicants for front page feature articles can let us know via email  (include press release, press pass, contact information and pictures.)

Newcomers Guide to Northwest Arkasnas

Appalled, Shocked and Dismayed in Northwest Arkansas

Last year I met a newcomer that is what “she described herself as” a white woman yet of Hispanic decent; when we first met I believe she had been in Northwest Arkansas less than six months – and – she was appalled, horrified, shocked, dismayed, stressed and outraged.  I noticed it on twitter and reached out to her…

If you’re reading this – we (you and I) have more work to do in this community – our – Northwest Arkansas.  There’s a lot to be done regarding Newcomer support in Northwest Arkansas!

Being from San Diego landing here in Northwest Arkansas was culture shock as she described it and as many describe it.  The challenges had to do with overhearing many people speak in a derogatory way about her Hispanic culture – remember – she’s looks white and many spoke freely in her presence , other challenges included big trucks, rebel flags, terrible driving and traffic situations to mention a few.

I chose to spotlight her story at Newcomer Reception – in the raw.  I was and am truly grateful she was willing to be so brave and again really vulnerable in a public venue like our Newcomer Receptions.  Following her brave heartfelt share she handed back the microphone and my only words were…I’m so sorry this has happened to you here and that it has caused you to hurt.  Then I turned to the audience and said, “When we know better – we can do better!”

Later that next week we met for coffee and let me say “being heard” is so incredibly powerful because she seemed softer and I encouraged her to seek and focus on things she loves here.  Today she is a vibrant community leader and a loving, caring, beautiful woman, wife, bonus mom, friend, neighbor and professional – yes she got back to her true foundational core.

Together – we can do more.  I don’t want to come across as NWA fairy Godmother or anything yet – the work we do at TalkoftheTownNWA.com is very important.  Further we need your support to keep going, growing and making a difference.

I was inspired to write this today because yesterday I got off the phone after hearing the shared story of a beautiful black woman that has been here a year and found herself in tears at an offsite work meeting.  She broke down and cried because she hasn’t been able to connect here in Northwest Arkansas.

Look for that article next (link at bottom of page) and learn more about what is possible if the Newcomer just knew we we’re available on such a personal level.  Not everyone needs support – many do great.  If you’re a newcomer and struggling pick up the phone and call us 479.633.GROW (4769) or attend a Newcomer Reception then we’ll have a tea or coffee later.  A sit down visit (smile).

Please share both of these articles so businesses, services and HR departments can better understand the void we fill.  We are able to make a huge difference in this community as connectors, consultants, coaches, mentors and more…  Support, retention and connection is our amazing gift to this community by means of TalkoftheTownNWA.com and the work we do as a service and the individual attention and conversations we are willing to have with Newcomers is powerful in our growing region.

Day before yesterday I called a client who works for a prominent supplier in Northwest Arkansas.  The conversation took a spin about a beautiful black woman struggling to get connected in Northwest Arkansas…click to read full story

With much gratitude,

Theresa | Chief Inspirational Office | TalkoftheTownNWA.com | 479.633.GROW (4769)